2023 is here and you know what that means: New Year’s resolutions. It also means that there is a lot of food culture being imposed on us from all sides. For many of us it is uncomfortable and triggering. “New Year: New You” is everywhere you turn.
While we were on a New Year’s theme, some of you might want to work with some resolutions and rock out with them… Not everyone is trying to fill the gym for a month or jump on the latest diet craze. Some of us just want to improve internally.
In a small way.
Without the noise of a toxic diet culture. If you’re looking for some solutions, these 10 New Year’s Resolutions might just be for you!
In no particular order
Here are 10 New Year’s resolutions that have nothing to do with losing weight
1) Agree not to be included/invited
In the age of social media, getting a case of FOMO is very easy (afraid of being left out). How many times have you seen people and thought to yourself “Wait…why didn’t they tell me?!”
Sometimes you might not be welcomed and end up putting yourself in an awkward situation. Other times, people might actually forget to tell you.
With this New Year’s resolution, you should learn to be okay with not getting involved in every aspect of someone’s life. Often it’s not even personal.
And even if it is, you now know your place in that person’s life. It is up to you to act accordingly.
2) do things yourself
Missed a movie you wanted to see? Missed a great flight deal? You know why? Because you were waiting for your friends and they left at the last minute.
Think of all the vernissages, concerts, trips, etc. that you didn’t go to because you were hoping someone would go with you… Too? You never know what you can learn about yourself by taking a chance and doing things on your own!
Life is way too short to miss. Take this solo journey. Try the new restaurant. Truth be told, you will find someone to take a picture for you and you will create some new memories. Time waits for no one.
3) Say no and mean it
No, is a complete sentence. It’s hard to say no. Boundaries that we learn to set for ourselves can often be accompanied by guilt. The book, Set boundaries, find peace by Nedra Tawaab is a great place to learn how to set boundaries for yourself and for others.
So often we say yes and regret it before the person even hangs up. As soon as we press send a text. You end up trying to find ways to get out of it.
If you know you don’t want to do something, say no and stick with it. Will people be upset? For sure! But it’s not worth the energy you expend to fear the task at hand.
To be fair, it also gives the person on the receiving end of the no a chance to explore other options.
This goes for family, friends, work, and anyone else you’d like to say no to!
Just say no.
4) Do something you’ve always dreamed of doing
Always wanted to do stand-up comedy? Do you want to become an influencer? Open a business? Well what are you waiting for?
The worst that can happen is that it doesn’t work the way you imagined. The best that can happen is that things go well and you’ll wonder why you didn’t take the plunge.
You never know what the journey will tell you about you and your purpose if you don’t give yourself a chance to explore…
In the end, at least you tried, and that’s the most important thing.
5) Go to therapy
This is one of the most personal New Year’s resolutions… The trauma isn’t your fault. However, you are responsible for your healing.
The thought of opening up to a total stranger can be daunting. Having to relive traumatic situations in your life can be frightening.
But a therapist can set you on a path that will lead you to a better place. A place where you can learn to thrive rather than just survive.
You don’t have to be a product of your past!
As someone who made their way into therapy, learned various tools to get through tough times, and had to do the work to work on my shadow self, it’s tough but sooo rewarding.
6) Rate your friendships
Should old acquaintances be forgotten?
We all have a friend that we know for what feels like a lifetime. Sometimes that friend isn’t the best. And yet you find it difficult to let them go because they have been there for a long time. Sometimes as I’ve learned “You grow out of your friends.”
When someone asks you why you’re friends with them and you say “We’ve known each other a long time!” It might be time to really think about what this person means to you.
time Not always equal to a valuable relationship. A person you met a month ago can do more for you emotionally than someone you met when you were two years old.
It’s okay to outgrow a friend. Don’t force yourself to nurture an old friendship that expired ages ago.
7) Let go of those bad family members too!
Speaking of relationships, it’s okay to stop associating with people in your family who mistreat you and make you feel less than yourself.
Do you have a cousin who is rude every time you see them? An aunt who likes to remind you what you are NOT working with? Do you have an uncle that makes you uncomfortable?
Set those limits and protect your peace…
Just because they’re related to you doesn’t mean you’re obligated to be around them.
This also applies to parents. You don’t deserve to be abused by anyone.
8) Get out of your fashion comfort zone
If you’re shopping online and see something you only dreamed of wearing, buy it.
Don’t wait to lose a few pounds.
Don’t wait for an occasion.
Don’t care about other people’s opinions.
If it makes you happy, wear it. If you want to try something new, do it. You never know what you can unlock by giving yourself the space to discover your personal style. Confidence, boldness, playfulness—all of these might come out when you give yourself the space to play in or with certain items in your closet.
9) Take more pictures.
We’re so engrossed in our self-esteem that we miss out on being a part of great memories.
You worry about whether you look bad or not.
Whether it can be edited or not.
Whether it’s the perfect photo or not.
None of these things matter.
Everyone wants to look back and remember you were there. Stop hiding! Life is too short.
Jump in every photo you can!
And if it helps, do you take the time to learn what poses work best for you? Where the poses bring some confidence and energy out of you!
10) Make time for what is important to you.
It’s hard to find the energy for extra activities after a long day at work. Especially if it’s a job you don’t love.
people like to say “Beyoncé has the same 24 hours and look what she’s accomplished!”
This is by no means realistic.
Beyoncé has a lot of money and a team. You have good… you. There IS time to do what you love.
Buy a planner (or find a great one online!) and create a schedule. If you write down what you are actually doing, you will see that you have time.
Instead of spending hours scrolling social media, use this time to work on something you care about!
A bonus one: stop rushing so hard.
If you’re taking one of those New Year’s resolutions with you, this is the one…
That “Sleep When I’m Dead” culture is so strong. Actually too strong. You are of no use to anyone, especially yourself, if you run with an empty cup. It’s okay to do a little less.
It’s okay to rest and take care of yourself.
You may feel that a new year brings new pressures. It doesn’t have to. In 2023, do whatever it takes to live your best life.
Do any of these 10 New Year’s resolutions speak to you?
What do you want to work on in the new year and what do you want to achieve? Let us know in the comments!